A clear distinction between Pattaya girls and the regular Thai girls needs to be made if you value your mental health, your finances, and your reputation. Fun times with sexy ladies are guaranteed in sin-city, but long-term romantic success is best sought elsewhere.
Following the advice that I’ve given about regular Thai girls is a fine thing, but applying it to the ladies in Pattaya will put you at risk of landing yourself in some trouble...
If you ignore everything else that I tell you, trust me on this, getting too attached is like asking for heartbreak and ruin. Stick with regular Thai girls if a lasting romance is what you are looking for.
The girls in Pattaya are the stuff of dreams if you just want a casual holiday romance, but they can be the stuff of nightmares if you allow yourself to get too emotionally involved, and don’t go thinking that it can’t happen to you, it is much easier than you think.
What Pattaya girls do offer you is the opportunity to recapture the glory days of your misspent youth… and then some!
NOTE: I am aware that there are some readers who will be a little concerned at the tone of my writing here so let me clarify my position. As regards the pay-for-pleasure industry, I neither promote it nor condemn it, but it does exist and I’m not going to ignore it.
The arguments as to the morals of participating in this industry, or not, are unclear in my opinion. My viewpoint is that consenting adults are best placed to use their own judgement in deciding what is right for them.
There's no denying that the girls are the main attraction that draws men to this particular city in Thailand. There is nowhere else in Thailand to compete with this place when it comes to the ladies who will happily entertain you, and they are the reason for so many return visitors...
Yes, there are some decent beaches here and there, there is fantastic weather for most of the year, there is lots of tasty food and there are all manner of other attractions to keep you interested, but it is the girls more than any other factor that really puts Pattaya on the map for a fun-packed adventure or two.
This section of my website is focused on providing you with information about how to meet these girls in the bars, gogos, discos and similar venues, and also on what sort of experience you can expect from them.
If the beer-bars and a-go-go scene does not interest you, or if you are intending to meet a lady that won't expect a payment in the morning, it's worth having a look at the online dating sites for finding your lady-friends.
I've given specific advice in my Mega-Book about successful dating in Thailand, and the very first thing to note about that is that you shouldn't even consider anything long-term with any of the lovely ladies in Pattaya - it's just too risky. However, if you keep your relationships here strictly on a short-term fun basis, you'll have nothing but good times.
I’m going to be absolutely clear at this point, it is the girlfriend experience (GFE) that Pattaya girls are best known for. It’s fairly self-explanatory but, just to be absolutely clear, the GFE refers to the type of service that working-girls provide i.e. it’s just as it would be with a regular girlfriend… without the nagging!
You can get a GFE from working-girls the world over but the difference is in terms of cost. In the west I’ve seen prices quoted in thousands of dollars for a single night’s entertainment. In Thailand you can find a very attractive lady for as little as 2,000 Thai Baht per day and for that she’ll treat you like a superstar!
Most western men think of a liaison with a prostitute as being a very sordid, business-like engagement where you can touch this, but you can’t touch that, this is allowed, but this isn’t, and so on. You can forget all that nonsense when you are in Pattaya.
I’m not saying that absolutely anything goes, but you can expect the same sort of intimacy that you would receive from a genuine girlfriend back home, and you’ll be treated with the utmost care and respect too.
It’s no wonder that so many men have fallen into the honey-trap of long-distance relationships with these ladies, some of them really do take care of your every whim when you are with them.
But you need to keep it real…
The trick is to utterly refuse to allow your ego to convince you that you really are a younger, better looking version of George Clooney. Never forget that you are in fantasy land when you visit this place, trouble is almost certainly in store for you if you allow your ego to get ahead of itself.
There are differences in the experiences that you’ll have with the working-girls depending on what type of bar you meet them in. I’ve given plenty of advice on that on my homepage and I recommend that you have a good read of the information there if you are planning a trip to Thailand anytime soon.
Some (not all) of the bar girls are so petite, sweet, and softly spoken that you’ll want to whisk them up, wrap them in cotton wool, and sing them to sleep with a lullaby... amongst other things that you’ll want to do with them!
As much as you might think that they share your attraction, some of the girls are not even heterosexual, and some have lesbian partners that work with them in the bars. Sometimes you’ll spot a girl go off to get the approval of her girlfriend before heading off with a customer.
In other cases the girl may be heterosexual, but she is married and her husband is fully aware of how she earns her money. If a girl is not married, she will still usually have a boyfriend hanging around somewhere in the background, no matter how much she denies it.
The fact is that she’s working when she’s with you, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t have a good time together, it just means that you shouldn’t fall in love!
Pattaya is by far the largest and most popular destination for tourists seeking the pleasure of some female company, so here are some details about what sets Pattaya girls apart:
It's up to your own personal preference as to whether or not you like your women to have darker or fairer skin but, in any case, you needn’t be too concerned as there are still plenty of fair skinned girls to choose from. You will certainly find someone that catches your eye and you will most probably feel like a kid in a candy shop with all the options available to you!
You will even be able to find some Russian girls in Pattaya... although I don’t personally recommend these ladies due to the very hefty prices that they charge, and the unfriendly attitudes that some display.
One thing that a lot of Pattaya girls have in common is a baby that's being taken care of by their parents in their hometowns. This is quite a common thing and is often the reason why they are working in the oldest of professions. Babies aren't cheap after all, and with an absent father and expensive bills to pay, the money has to come from somewhere.
As an additional note, if you are attracted by the idea of getting up close and personal with some Pattaya girls, my advice is to make hay whilst it lasts. The naughty bar scene is not going to be here forever and I think that most guys would agree that the glory days of the late 90s and early 2000s are unlikely to return.
The Pattaya nightlife is still going strong, but it is not as bountiful as it once was...
Technology has played a big part in moving girls away from the bars; mobile phone cameras make many scared of being seen by someone back home, whilst online dating sites have created opportunities to find a western customer without the need to work in a bar at all.
These factors have led to declining numbers of girls in the bars, and ever rising prices asked by those who remain, although these prices are still way lower than comparable prices back home.
Here are the key points to remember about Pattaya:
There’s a lesson to be learned from Gandalf the Grey (of ‘Lord of the Rings’ fame) and his statement to the effect that hobbits can completely surprise you even after knowing them and their ways for many, many years.
Now, I don’t know if Gandalf ever made it over to Thailand for a steamy relationship or two with the ladies there, but he could just as easily have been talking about Pattaya prostitutes as hobbits when making that statement.
When hanging out with bar girls and other working-girls, there are about a million different things that can happen to a man that will leave him scratching his head and wondering what the hell has just transpired.
There are some size similarities with hobbits too; the number of cute little Thai girls you’ll find there is striking and I emphasize the phrase ‘little Thai girls’, they are usually tiny compared to the behemoths that pass for women in Farangland!
Freebies are not particularly uncommon in the Thai prostitution scene – if you receive one it does not mean that you have found the love of your life, it’s more likely that you have found someone who is playing the long game. Either that or you have found someone who is simply too ashamed to ask for payment.
In these circumstances it is nearly always a good idea to make sure you do pay her, otherwise you might end up with all sorts of trouble that you hadn’t anticipated e.g.:
If you are dating an ex bar-girl and you get caught in the company of another girl, it is sensible to make sure that you have a reasonable excuse ready and waiting. It doesn’t need to be a watertight excuse just one that could feasibly be true. Small they may be, but Thai hookers can cause quite a commotion when the situation calls for it!
The point of the excuse is not to pull the wool over the girl’s eyes, because she will not believe a word of it anyway, but you will still have done the right thing and provided a face-saving way out of any potential conflict.
This won’t work if you are dating a respectable Thai lady, she will simply end your relationship right there and then, but a bar-girl will most likely accept it. She’ll keep an extra eye on you from there on in though.
This lying game works both ways of course… if you catch your girl in an incriminating situation, you can be sure that she will try to lie her way out of it. It is then up to you to decide whether or not to end the relationship or accept the lie.
Remember that the purpose of the lie is to save-face, it is not to deceive… Pattaya girls are not going to believe your lies and you shouldn’t believe theirs!
If the girl you are entertaining is still currently working as a bar-girl; don’t even bother to make excuses! Keep yourself firmly in the ‘customer’ classification and don’t let her think that you are anything more than that.
Tell her straight out that you are a ‘butterfly’ and whilst she’s doing what she must, you’ll be doing what you lust! She won’t like it, but deal with it head on and tell her straight.
Jealousy and loyalty is an issue with Pattaya girls that will startle you into disbelief. They are of the opinion that they are allowed to have sexual relations with multiple men because it is their job; you on the other hand are expected to be 100% faithful! Knock this nonsense on the head immediately and tell her how things are really going to be.
If you split with a girl, or even if she splits with you, you need to be careful if you run into her again sometime later. Pattaya prostitutes are not known for their forgiving attitude and even if she doesn’t want you anymore, that doesn’t mean you are allowed to stop wanting her…
The nightlife in Pattaya is literally crawling with opportunities to meet girls, and you don’t need to limit yourself to any particular location because the whole city is one big hunting ground for horny guys!
With that said, most pleasure seekers like to do their hunting in the best nightspots for bars and clubs, so here are my top suggestions:
There are a least half a dozen other worthy locations that I’ve not listed here, and if you want to see the full list then click here.
On the subject of Pattaya girls, you may have heard of the term ‘bar-fine’ before and wondered what it means - you'll soon find out if you ever visit sin city!
Basically it is a fee that is paid directly to a bar for acquiring the services of one of the girls that work there. If you want to head off with the girl, the bar will need to be compensated for releasing their employee to you. It has nothing to do with the payment that your chosen lady will want for her services, that is strictly between the two of you and nothing to do with the bar.
There are several different scenarios whereby you may be asked to pay a bar-fine, but it is only a legitimate request if it applies to a girl who works in the bar. The bar is after all paying her wages, and they aren't doing that so that she can head off with you, they want her working in the bar pulling in customers, serving beers, and so on. So the bar-fine is a release fee... or is it?
Even if you meet another customer in a bar, there are some that will want to charge you if you decide to leave together. In that case it would be a fee for having provided a meeting place. On one occasion I met a fellow Englishman in a bar and played a few games of pool with him. 20 minutes later the bar manager was asking if we would like to pay a bar-fine to leave together!
This nonsense is, of course, totally unenforceable and totally unreasonable.
Politely decline to pay if you want to take a companion out of a bar if she doesn't actually work there. It does depend somewhat on the venue as to whether or not you'll be asked to pay in these circumstances - discos certainly won't charge you, and neither will the larger 'freelance' bars, but some of the smaller beer-bars might try a more opportunistic approach.
As with all Thai girls, Pattaya girls have some quite unique cultural values. Believe it or not, some of them can be quite shy! They are not raised in a way that leads naturally to an outgoing extroverted character, and the nature of sex in Pattaya is representative of the extent of the prostitution scene there - it doesn't represent the more traditional areas of the country.
Whilst the ladies you’ll meet in the bars are readily available for sex, regular Thai ladies do not jump straight into bed with western guys at the first opportunity - contrary to popular belief!
If you decide to spend some time with a Thai girl, and you find her to be very outspoken, outgoing, and confident, it's a sign that she may have been working in a bar for a while and gotten used to liaising with westerners.
For an idea of how things are with these ladies can be, have a read of some true stories:
Experienced hands in the Thailand expat community have no trouble keeping their emotions in check and parting with a lady without any real heartache, but that’s usually because they’ve been burned a time or two already. For newbies, no matter how hard you try to avoid it, these ladies will work their magic and be tugging at your heart-strings when the time comes to say goodbye.
After your first week in Pattaya you will most likely find one particular girl who you like above all others, and you will probably spend the rest of your holiday with her.
Be especially careful here, she will probably want to see you off at the airport, and she may have tears in her eyes when the two of you part company. It is all too easy to start a long distance relationship from that point on, but I’m afraid that the success rate of these relationships is extremely low.
If you are the sort of fellow who can learn from the romantic mistakes of other guys without needing a few train-wreck relationships of your own to teach you how things are, you're a lucky man indeed. You’re also a in a minority, most guys need to be really careful.
My general advice is to buy a new telephone/sim card when you arrive in Pattaya, and bin it on departure. It makes for a nice clean break when you have thrown away your only means of contacting the girls you meet in the bars of Pattaya.
Why would you want to end contact? Because as wonderful as your experience undoubtedly was, the chances are that it is best left in Thailand. Your girl's sadness at losing you may well have been genuine, it probably was if you felt it was, but the whole experience is based on a fantasy.
That's not to say that a full-time relationship or even a marriage can't work, it can, but you do need to be aware of the huge culture gap. You need to make sure that your girl's dreams are the same as yours and, sadly, that is not often the case.
You will no doubt be aware of the large number of ‘Thai girl done me wrong’ stories out there, and many are completely true. It's not that Pattaya girls are morally corrupt (although a life of bar work will take its toll), it is usually necessity that is driving their actions. This is especially true if she has poor parents and a baby of her own that needs taking care of.
In Thailand, where there is not much of a welfare system, the women take their family responsibilities extremely seriously. Sacrificing their innocence in order to take care of the family is not a step that they want to take, it is a step that necessity sometimes demands.
In these circumstances you should expect that a lady will have little concern for the emotional turmoil that she may or may not be inflicting on a western guy who really should know better - especially if the girl is beautiful and half his age!
She will say what she must, to earn what she needs, and the sheer number of suicides in Pattaya that occur when reality kicks in is astounding - so don't let it happen to you!
Many men have ended up losing friends, family, fortunes and more. Virtually all of these men started out with the same mindset that you might have right now i.e. that Pattaya girls are working-girls and there's no chance on this planet of ever forming an attachment to such a lady.
The reason why so many western men fall into this trap is because they can’t reconcile their own instincts with the typical deceptions that are employed by Pattaya girls. Click here for the latest example of how badly these relationships can end...
Our western instincts are often based on rules of conduct that just don’t apply in a Buddhist country like Thailand, where the girls that you’ll come into contact with may have had to face economic hardship the like of which we in the west never face.
There is no better teacher than necessity, and it has taught Thailand’s working-girls to lie convincingly like nothing you can imagine, so don’t get lulled in by their words or deeds.
Obviously people can't be put into boxes but, broadly speaking, there are five types of working girls in Pattaya (six if you include all the naughty masseuses in town, but they are discussed in the 'happy ending massage' section).
Each type of girl has her own unique strategy for making her work pay:
Pattaya Bar Girls
These ladies can be found working in a variety of different types of bars and, as you would expect, there is some difference in the approach that these girls will take with regard to bringing a smile to your face. Generally speaking though, there are some similarities in the type of relationship that you might build with these Pattaya girls. Click the first link to find out more about bar girls.
Pattaya Gogo Girls
Want to know what to expect from a gogo girl? Click the link to find out how the financial strategy of Pattaya gogo girls differs to that of other working girls. If it is sheer physical beauty that you are looking for then these ladies offer you your best option… and you certainly get to see the merchandise before you buy! This page will tell you all that you need to know about these girls, and what type of experience they will likely offer to you.
Pattaya Beach Girls
Beach girls are one of two groups of working girls who are commonly referred to as 'freelancers'. They may, or may not, be working entirely under their own steam. Some have a male 'guardian' that will need to be dealt with (paid). Amongst all the Pattaya girls that you form an attachment to, this option is the most risky. This page explains those extra risk factors.
If you are getting a little sick and tired of the condescending attitude from the Western girls that you meet on a night out back home, the girls that you will meet in a Pattaya nightclub might be just what the doctor ordered! They are often full-time students, or even girls with regular low-paid work, who need a bit of an income top up. These Pattaya girls tend to work less often and sometimes only on weekends.
The key selling point for these Thai call girls is the discretion that they offer their customers. They will happily cater for a wide range of clients and fantasies. Prices are higher, but the services tend to be more high-end in terms of quality. They are popular with couples and with disabled clients and anyone that might want a different option to picking up girls in the bars and similar venues.
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