In my Thai dating tips and strategies I’m pulling out all the stops to give you the very best advice that I can offer about forging successful long-term relationships with Thai women. By which I mean, women who are worthy of your love.
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The information below is essential reading, and especially so if you have read any horror stories about Thai/Western relationships.
I’ll state upfront that most westerners have a very warped opinion about the virtues of Thai women and their suitability for serious romance. This is because of the deserved bad reputation of bar-girls, and their ruthless treatment of those western guys who have placed their trust in them.
The failure rate of bar-girl relationships is extremely high, but it is quite common for that failure to lay dormant for many years until the bar-girl in question is presented with a better option in the form of a richer man.
This might not be a problem if the man is aware of the basis of his relationship, but I find very little evidence that this is the case amongst my fellow westerners, most of whom believe that their much younger ex-bar-girl partners are completely in love with them.
I wish them all the best, but the track record of these sorts of relationships is not good, and I suspect that more than a few expats are in for a rude awakening at some point.
It’s unfair to judge regular Thai dating under this spotlight.
You wouldn’t judge western girls by the standard of behaviour set by western prostitutes, many of whom come from a background of absent fathers, drug abuse, anti-social behaviour, vandalism, high rates of teenage pregnancy, high unemployment and all sorts of other problems that affect decent standards of behaviour.
In Thailand it is much less obvious to us westerners that there is an equally strong divide between regular Thai girls and those who work in the bars…
So, don't rush things, take your time and read on...
A basic understanding of Thai dating, how to find the good girls, how to impress them and how to understand them, is essential if you want success and I’m going to give you the short-form version of that right here on this page.
However, my free eBook goes into much more depth and I’d advise you to download it and give it a thorough read.
Finding the best girls requires a decent appreciation of the reality of the Thai dating scene. Most Thai women would prefer to marry a Thai man than a westerner. This is particularly true in traditional out-of-town areas where foreigners are more of a rarity.
The reason why this is the case is because many local people in these areas will readily assume that any woman who marries a western man must have met him whilst working as a bar-girl, i.e. prostitute, in one of the tourist areas.
The last thing that a decent, honest Thai girl would want anyone to think is that she might be a sex-worker. This means that you face an extra challenge if you aren’t Thai, and at one time that would mean settling for either a desperately poor girl (who is only in it for the money) or a less attractive girl (because the best looking ones would likely have better options).
Thankfully, times are changing and being seen with a westerner has less of a stigma attached to it these days.
You have a better chance of finding a decent, good natured, good looking girl in the main cities where it is much more common for western men to be seen with Thai girlfriends. That doesn't mean that you should head for the naughty nightlife areas though – such places are no good if you want to find a worthy girlfriend.
The impact of globalization and economic development is narrowing the boundaries between the modern developing areas of Thailand and the western world. Development brings with it a more international/cosmopolitan lifestyle, and lots of foreign businessmen. These businessmen, along with professional employees from the west, have helped to raise the profile of foreigners.
The jury is out on whether or not it is worthwhile studying Thai language. Whilst there are some obvious benefits to being able to speak Thai, it is not going to solve all your problems.
Thai culture is the main hurdle, not Thai language, and if you imagine that speaking Thai will integrate you into society in such a way that you’ll be regarded as an insider by local Thais then forget it. You will never be fully accepted, and you’ll always be an outsider to some extent.
Then of course there’s the fact that you’ll be able to get by in most places by speaking English, especially in the urban areas that I recommend basing yourself.
Finally, there’s the cost of learning to speak Thai, not just the financial cost and the cost of time & effort, but also the cost of not being able to put the genie back in the bottle. For example, how many times have you found yourself overhearing conversations in your own country that were so utterly boring that you almost lost the will to live?
Well, it turns out that most Thai bar girls are not talking about exciting sex-related topics, or about how they find you to be the most attractive guy ever… they are usually talking about mundane garbage, or gossiping about nothing in particular, or what style of rice they ate for breakfast. I think you get the picture, sometimes it’s better to be blissfully unaware of what’s going on around you.
The main downside to not speaking the language is that you are reduced to a much smaller section of society with whom you can easily communicate. If you want to find a lady for serious romance, the majority of respectable English-speaking Thai girls tend to be well educated girls who come from the wealthier side of Thailand. Be aware that these ladies are often very high maintenance, and not suitable for guys on a budget.
Even with the necessary resources behind you, you’ll still struggle to be accepted by those wealthy families because they will want a good, honest, respectable Thai husband for their daughter.
The remaining English-speaking Thai ladies, i.e. those from poorer backgrounds, are a bigger risk for serious attachment. They may have learned to speak English whilst working in the bars, and if that’s the case then they probably regard you as not much more than a walking ATM machine!
I think that the best 80-20 solution for finding the good girls is to forget about learning to speak Thai (at least for the time being) and focus your efforts on meeting ladies in respectable settings. There are all sorts of possibilities for this, but the best opportunities are in everyday occurrences like when you’re out shopping, or waiting for the sky-train.
Meet via the internet is a second-best option but it will be your only option if you are not currently in Thailand.
Restaurants – This might be an idea worth exploring, but go for a decent place that’s nowhere near the naughty nightlife areas. Personally I don't really recommend restaurants as hunting grounds but, if you need to have a drink before you can muster up the courage to approach someone, having a drink with a meal is a more respectable way to do it. Don't over-do it with the alcohol, it won't impress anyone if you are visibly drunk!
If you see a waitress that you like, don't go straight in for the kill as you would in the West. Most Thai women are too shy for that. A way to go about it is by asking a different waitress if your girl is romantically attached or not. She will go off to find out i.e. inform the girl that she has an admirer. If the girl likes you, and is available, the other waitress will let you know the good news. At that point you can make your approach, but remember she will probably be very shy, so don't go in all guns blazing!
Shopping Mall – I think this is the best option. Starting a casual conversation with a Thai woman in a shopping mall isn't easy, but you can follow the same guidance as above. After you see a shop-worker that you like, go for the option of asking a co-worker about the girl's availability. If she isn't interested she'll tell her friend that she has someone already and off you can go with your ego intact!
The beauty of it is that, unlike with a restaurant, you can make a quick getaway if you are unsuccessful. Restaurant girls also get hit on more often, so success with a shop-worker might be more likely to get you a respectable girl.
The Internet – This one is a good choice if meeting a Thai woman in person is unrealistic e.g. if you are currently based overseas. Unfortunately, the internet is a common hunting ground for the unscrupulous sorts of women that just want your money…
I recommend only meeting girls that are located near the hotel in Thailand at which you will be staying when you arrive, and make sure that all the Thai gold-digger signs are accounted for. There are also many respectable ladies online, and meeting them is easy, so don't be too scared off by the cash-hungry ladies.
This one may seem a little obvious but it needs to be said just in-case you are considering it.... DO NOT take a respectable Thai woman anywhere near the naughty nightlife scene!! She will be offended by this, she will think that you consider her to be the same as the bar girls.
A better option is to take her to a good quality Thai restaurant. If you want to be a little more adventurous, Japanese food is another option that is considered edible by most Thai women.
Very few Thai ladies like western food, but seafood is loved by most.
Be careful when deciding on a restaurant in Thailand, most will offer delicious food, but some of them can be expensive if you want international cuisine. The safest option is to let your girl choose the venue. She’ll pick somewhere that she feels comfortable with, and making her feel comfortable accomplishes a big part of your mission right from the start.
Whilst the best way to meet regular Thai women is to do it in person in Thailand (approaching work colleagues, friends of friends, etc.), but this is not feasible for the vast majority of guys who are based overseas and don’t have any Thai friends.
That being the case, the online dating sites are a good option, but only if you know how to use them properly. First and foremost, avoid the online introductory agencies that charge thousands of dollars for their virtually worthless services. Thai mail order bride type outfits like these have a terrible reputation and I would never trust them, so just stick to the normal dating sites.
It turns out that proper use of these sites is not common, and some guys get it embarrassingly wrong. A significant percentage of online registrations at the dating sites are actually refused and, when you consider that these sites are turning down applications from people ready to part with money for their services, the question has to be asked… why?
The problem is that some guys have got completely the wrong idea about Thai girls. It’s fairly well agreed across the world that the girls of Thailand have got something of a reputation for promiscuity (mostly undeserved) and some men seem to think that all you need to do to get a girl is send her an electronic message with words expressing just what you would like to do to her!
Better still, send her a message with a photo attached showing yourself in a ‘ready for action’ erect stance! Believe it or not, there are a lot of guys out there who think that this is a good way to present themselves online. Obviously, it isn’t, and that’s why the dating sites refuse these fools.
It occurs to me that whilst these no-hopers are beyond help, there’s probably a wider body of men do know how to behave respectfully, but don’t know how to maximise their chances online, so I thought a few suggestions might be in order.
The relatively small number of western expats that do understand how to use Thai dating sites, whilst avoiding the tricksters, will tell you that it is much better to approach the online girls who are too shy to post pictures of themselves.
If pictures on a profile show an attractive lady, you can bet that she is getting lots of attention, so don’t bother competing. There’s no need to and you’ll get a better class of lady if you go after those ladies who are too shy to include a photo.
Always remember that decent Thai girls tend to be shy and reserved, and if they are too shy to include a photo then this is a good sign about her character. Also, sending messages to the online ladies that don’t show pictures will bring a much higher response rate since they don’t get so much attention.
If you are concerned that a profile with no picture hides a lady that is ugly, rest assured that there is no correlation between a girl’s beauty and her propensity to post pictures. There are some outstandingly beautiful Thai girls out there that don’t post pictures.
If you know anything at all about Thai women then you will know that the shy ladies are exactly the right ladies to be focusing on if a long-term successful romance is your objective.
Since it pays to go about your online Thai dating endeavours with a more strategic approach, let’s have a look at that approach right now.
I advise you to prepare a very short and simple introductory message to be sent to the ladies on your chosen Thai dating site, something like:
“Hello my name is ____, I’m interested in Thailand and would like to meet a nice lady there. I’ve attached my photo, can you send me your photo please?”
These points will help:
You can have some confidence that these girls will not be in contact with many other men because, as mentioned, the online girls that don’t display pictures on their profiles get completely ignored by most guys.
On the first point, related to filtering girls, there are many considerations to make as to what sort of respectable lady you want, so have a read of my page about Thai girlfriends, it will help you to decide.
If things get really serious, you might start thinking about marriage... if so, make sure you learn what to expect by reading my page about Thai wives.
When messaging or chatting with these ladies, make sure that you are respectful. Under no circumstances should you mention anything about sex. Any respectable girl will be immediately scared off by that. Thai sex attitudes amongst polite society are very different to what you find in the tourist areas.
See below for specific advice about attitudes towards sex in Thailand.
Your best bet is to use plain language and avoid using phrases that have meanings different to the sum of the words, because those meanings will likely be lost in translation.
One thing that I see much more of, with the Thai women dating scene, is a sizable age-gap between the man and the Thai lady. Your 'tilac' (sweetheart, darling etc) might assure you that, no matter how large the age-gap is, it is of no importance at all.
This is a sign that your girl is untrustworthy!
If you have a 30 year age-gap, she might tell you of someone she knows who is perfectly happy with a boyfriend who is 40 years her senior. She might genuinely make you feel that any age-gap is of no importance whatsoever.
I do believe that significant age-gaps are generally more accepted in Thailand than in western countries, but anything over 10-15 years or so is likely to stress the relationship at some point in the future. However, that's another big generalization, a lot depends on the individuals involved.
You need to be realistic. If your girl is a 21 year old stunner whilst you are 25 years older, 40lbs overweight, bald, have a low sex drive, have completely different interests and so on, then your chances of long-term success here will be about the same as they are back home.
On the other hand, if you're a fit, healthy, good-looking 46 year old with a lot of energy... enjoy!
You might like to think that you can easily score with the good girls who are 30 years younger than you, even if you are bald, overweight, badly presented and so on. Sadly, this is not the case, not with the good girls at least.
You may well be able to have lots of short-term fun with the beautiful young ladies that you find online, but you need a more realistic target if you want true-love. Getting emotionally attached to the wrong women in Thailand can lead to disaster, and some guys have even chosen to join the ‘Pattaya flying club’ as their preferred way out!
That’s not to say that you need to settle for someone who has absolutely no sex appeal. You will easily be able to find girls on Thai dating sites who are much better looking than those available to you in the west.
You can find good girls that are significantly younger, good looking, and slim, but keep it sensible. You need to honestly assess your own attractiveness level and act accordingly.
If you are using an online Thai dating site to target girls in the 30+ age group, you will find that western men are highly sought after. Believe it or not, at this age many Thai men will consider the girls to be too old.
The girls know it and so they turn to western men.
One more piece of advice; you might run out of things to talk about online fairly quickly, so it’s a good idea if you are aiming to visit Thailand in the near future. Contacting a girl a few weeks in advance of a trip is ideal since, if you run out of things to say online, you’ll soon be able to meet her in person.
On a first date in Thailand your clothing choices and the manner of your conduct will make a big difference, more so than in the west. You only ever get to make one first impression and if it isn’t the right one you probably won’t get another date.
Happily, it’s very easy to make a good first impression.
Have a quick look at my advice about Thai etiquette but relax, your main goal is just to put your girl at ease and show her that she has nothing to worry about when she is in your company. Confidence is important, but Thai dating should be done in a relaxed, controlled sort of way rather than the all-singing all-dancing manner that would impress your typical Western girl.
You need to emphasize the friendly part by being full of smiles, but don’t go for the touchy feely approach as that would be too forward (even indecent) for traditional Thai sensibilities.
As far as the dress code is concerned, you should not turn up in shorts, t-shirt, and sandals if you are intending to impress. You’ll certainly want to wear clothes that keep you cool, but on a date you really should wear long trousers, shoes and a shirt (short-sleeve is fine).
Since you will be wearing more clothes than you would normally want to, give some thought to the meeting point. Choose somewhere that has air-conditioning and get there in a taxi as it will also have air-con.
You should expect that your lady will turn up to the date wearing respectable clothing. If she turns up wearing revealing clothes it is a sign that she is perhaps not the lady that you thought she was.
A common trick that the naughty-girls employ is to casually drop into a conversation that it will soon be her birthday and then, sometime later, casually glance into a jewellery shop window. It wouldn’t be done in a way that screams “buy me something…” but it is something to watch out for.
The naughty girls are crafty, so should you be!
Make sure that you have the meeting place written down in Thai, just in case your taxi driver doesn’t understand your English. When you arrive at your location you might, after a time, think that you have been stood up because your lady hasn’t shown up.
The chances are that she’s just running late… many Thai ladies have truly awful time-keeping skills, so choose a place where you can entertain yourself until she arrives.
She may even call you at the last minute to cancel the date; if so don’t be discouraged, she will probably want to reschedule for another time. I’m not sure why so many girls do this but it is a regular Thai dating frustration that every man experiences from time to time; it might even be a test to see if you get angry with her.
Thai girls are often scared of the short tempers that many western men are rumoured to have, so keep calm and reassure her that it is fine. You will have endless fun dating in Thailand if you can just keep calm and relaxed about the whole thing.
It’s generally a good sign if the lady lets you pay for everything, a Thai man would certainly want to pay as it ‘gains face'. If she insists on splitting the bill then she might be trying to avoid being indebted to you and thereby free from any further commitment to date you again.
The first date with a Thai girl sometimes comes in a group setting. She may show up with her sisters, or with some friends. If things go wrong or she’s simply not attracted to you, she can use her friends as an excuse to take off early.
On the other hand, if the first impression she has towards you is positive, her friends may slowly disappear from the scene as the night progresses.
You may have some anxiety about meeting a lady from a different culture to your own, and one reason for that is that you might not know what to talk about. Here are some suggestions.
Her Beauty – complementing her appearance is a good idea if you want her to like you, but only do it once. Once is enough for her to know that you are interested, any more than that and she’ll likely think that you are coming on too strong.
Your reasons for being in Thailand – if you’re here as a tourist then tell her that, and discuss your travel plans with her. Ask her advice about tourist attractions etc. It might be that you are here on business and if so she’ll be excited by that, you will certainly move up several notches on the desirability front.
Your family – Thais take their families very seriously and she will likely be polite and ask you about your family, and maybe your friends too.
Food – this one is a favourite topic of most Thai women. It also offers a good opportunity to demonstrate your humour (Thais are a fun loving lot). You can joke that in your country you like to eat rat gums & eyelids and that you will cook some for her on a later date… just make sure that she knows you are joking! Some forms of humour are not well understood; sarcasm for instance is not a good idea.
Immediate surroundings – look around you for points of interest and just go with the flow.
Politics – This is not a romantic topic and it is best avoided. Another reason to avoid it is that political opinions in Thailand are a bit polarized, and it is not regarded as a suitable topic for foreign guests.
Monarchy – Thais love their monarchy, so be respectful here if you do mention it at all. On no account should you say anything against the monarchy, not even in jest. A mistake here can put you in jail as it is a very serious crime to criticize the monarchy.
Sports – As much as you might think that your lucky lady would love to hear all about the sublime footballing skills of Nottingham Forest, and the extraordinary run of bad luck that they are having this century, she most likely will not truly grasp the richness of this fascinating topic of conversation.
Her work – It’s a good idea to try and figure out what sort of girl she is right from the outset, but don’t go too investigative too soon. Asking about her job is fine and it might bring useful information if you haven’t already discussed it before the actual date. For example, if she works in a white-collar job you can ask if she had to go to University first and so on.
Her family – This is the most important aspect of any Thai girl’s life and it is polite to ask about her family. Does she have brothers or sisters, are her parents well, do they work, where do they live etc. If you find out that she is an only child with a large extended family living in poor health and so on, you should suspect that she might be looking for a generous benefactor.
Her home – You will want to know if she lives in her family home or at her own place, or with friends etc. If she does not live in the family home you can ask why? If she lives away from home for her work or studies then that’s fine, but it is more usual for unmarried Thai ladies to live with their parents.
Are you a sex tourist – this is a big concern for any respectable Thai lady as she will certainly not want to get involved with a sex tourist, for obvious reasons. If, when you spoke about your reasons for being in Thailand, you told her about your intention to sample the nightlife in Pattaya, Patpong, Nana Plaza and the like, you’ve made a big mistake and you’ll be labelled a sex tourist.
Are you intending a fling – even if you have successfully convinced her that you are a respectable fellow, your girl will still wonder about your motives. It is not uncommon for respectable Thai men to have a ‘mia noi’ i.e. a girlfriend as well as a wife, and Thai dating sites are popular with ‘butterfly’ men.
Are you married – this one is related to the previous question. If you are divorced or widowed then you might want to hold off on that information until a later date as it isn’t exactly a fun topic, and it is important that your girl sees you as being good fun to be around.
Are you financially capable of providing for a family – this is not the same as scoping out whether or not you can become a generous benefactor. It is perfectly normal and practical to want to know fairly soon whether or not a serious long-term relationship with you is feasible, and money does matter.
Okay, here’s the big one…
When it comes to attitudes towards sex in Thailand you should be aware that there is a LOT of rubbish written about the whole thing, and that most westerners have no clue about it. This is especially true of the self-proclaimed experts, many of whom base their entire knowledge of Thailand on a 2-week vacation in Pattaya.
First and foremost, and as I’ve explained in other sections of the site, Thailand is a very conservative country at heart and it’s important not to confuse mainstream behaviour with the sort of activities that you see in the tourist hotspots.
With that said, there is a big difference between reality and the words that you will read or hear about from a Thai lady as regards the pace at which a sexual relationship might progress from being platonic to a full on intimate liaison.
Almost all Thai women will insist that a respectable lady will hold back on the intimate stuff until such a time as she deems it right and proper to become intimate. In reality, as with ladies the world over, much will depend on the nature of how you meet and who you meet.
I’ll use an analogy to put my point across – consider your typical western girl on a vacation (holiday if you prefer) somewhere far from home. She’ll likely get up to all sorts of stuff that she wouldn’t dream of doing back home because, when operating in her usual social surroundings, she will want to protect her reputation.
Take her outside of those usual social surroundings and put her in the company of men that she’s unlikely to ever see or hear from again, and you can bet that she’ll be far less inhibited as regards intimate relations!
The same logic applies to Thai dating.
Don’t be surprised if a first date leads to an intimate encounter, the weight of evidence suggests that it is quite likely.
Thai girls know that western men are not likely to end up interacting with anyone from their own social or professional circle of contacts, so they tend to have much less fear of damaging their reputations by jumping straight into bed…
Of course, if you do meet a regular Thai lady from within a shared circle of friends or work colleagues, then you can expect things to progress much more slowly!
For girls under the age of about 25, depending on the girl, sex may be more readily available just as it is with young girls in western countries. However, as with western countries, it will sometimes only be available to similarly young men (be they western men or Thai men.)
That’s not always the case and sometimes a significantly older man can get lucky with a much younger Thai lady, but in this case it is far more likely that payment will be expected.
A lot of westerners love to brag about the success they’re having for free, but in a lot of cases the girl involved would have been expecting some money even if nothing was mentioned. A Thai man would understand this and the Thai lady might simply expect you to understand without the embarrassment of an actual request for payment.
For older groups, sex for fun is sometimes seen as being a little unwholesome in the traditional areas, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen… just that an older woman would almost certainly want to keep things much more private.
That is a big selling point for westerners – the extra privacy offered means that many a mature Thai lady will turn to westerners for their fun. It’s also true that a high proportion of Thai men are not interested in the ladies from an older age group, so westerners have a lot of opportunities there.
Any particular girl that you meet might behave quite differently depending on what she is expecting from a relationship. As explained already, if you meet a girl in the workplace and set about winning her heart, don’t expect to get her into bed anytime soon. She will know that there’s a big risk of workplace gossip causing damage to her reputation, so she’ll play things in a much more reserved fashion.
If, on the other hand, you met that same girl online and she felt that she could keep her relationship with you as a completely private thing with no chance of your lives crossing paths in a social or professional capacity, then she might well decide that intimacy on a first date is fine. Thai dating in secret usually leads to much more sex in general!
If the girl in question is hoping to meet a lifelong partner then she is going to want to make a good impression and there’s no way that she is going to hop straight into bed with a prospective husband. A casual acquaintance on the other hand might be someone to share intimacy with on a ‘no-strings’ basis.
Many respectable ladies and gentlemen in Thailand have got secret acquaintances with whom they shrug off their prim and proper personalities and let themselves indulge in passionate encounters. Obviously, these sorts of relationships are kept very secret.
Sex with regular Thai girls, and even with non-specialist bar girls, tends to be relatively straight laced. Vaginal and oral sex is certainly commonplace but if you are hoping to find a lady that enjoys something a little more adventurous e.g. anal sex, then this is much less common than with western girls.
Many regular Thai ladies can be quite naïve, and some will allow you to progress things much more quickly than she would choose. If you are not intending something serious, then using a regular girl to satisfy your urges is a very bad idea, and can quite possibly lead to serious repercussions.
Thais have no problem with westerners using the services of a working girl to satisfy their needs, but take advantage of a regular girl, with no intention of ongoing commitment, and they will despise you with a passion!
Whilst the heartlands of the kingdom are still very conservative and traditional, there is something of a revolution going on that is something akin to what happened in the western world during the 1960’s. Things are changing a bit more slowly than that, but there is a definite evolution of attitudes towards sex in Thailand.
I imagine that, to some degree, this is an inevitable consequence of the effects of globalisation. Regardless of this changing mind-set, were you to have an open and frank conversation with a group of Thai girls about when it is appropriate to have sex with a new boyfriend, they would all insist that the first date is way too soon (even if, in practise, they will happily indulge!).
If this subject doesn’t raise a few eyebrows than nothing will!
When it comes to monogamy, Thai relationships are thought to weigh heavily on the unfaithful side, but that’s nonsense. It all comes down to what sort of girl you’ve gotten involved with. If your girl married you for love (as a regular Thai girl would) then she will want the marriage to work, and that means that she’ll want to be in a proper committed relationship.
As usual, the bad rap about Thai dating is due to the sex tourists that end up married to working girls – these cases usually do lead to unfaithful behaviour, but it’s nothing to do with your girl being Thai.
There are, however, some possibilities that a Thai lady will stray if she doesn’t feel completely reassured that you are 100% committed to her, and this is especially true if you’ve taken her overseas to live with you.
Thais tend to become much more liberated once they get used to life in the west, where many of the social shackles that might foster a more traditional lifestyle are broken. This is especially true if your girl has experienced poverty, and the reasons for that might be a little less obvious so I’ll explain.
Basically, you need to consider her position through her eyes. Once she’s with you in the west, all of her eggs are placed in your basket and if you turn out to be unreliable then she might end up being cast aside in a foreign country.
Anyone that has known poverty does not forget it, and they will be very unlikely to give up their instinct to create safety nets in case things go belly-up with their current relationship. That means that the urge to create a network of other romantic contacts, as a fall-back position, might be ingrained very deeply into her psyche.
She won’t know anything about western social welfare safety nets and she’ll be scared that she could be thrown onto the streets with no money, and no friends to help her out. If she thinks that there is any possibility of this happening then she might well look for a safety net in the event that her marriage fails.
The solution to this problem is to make absolutely certain that your girl knows that you are completely devoted to her; don’t play immature mind games with her, and give her plenty of attention and reassurances because she’ll likely have some concerns even if you have none.
Words are known to be cheap in Thailand; deeds speak much more, so providing lots of little gifts to let her know that she’s always in your thoughts will go a long way to help with this.
Using internet based Thai dating services to make first contact with eligible Thai women is a viable option... in fact it is most likely your only viable option if you are not currently in Thailand (assuming that there is no local Thai community in your home town), so don't miss out on the opportunities that they present.
You'll find that there is a wide range of girls online, and mixed in amongst them are some really beautiful ladies who aren't out to ruin you!
If you are intending to use a Thai dating site to find a long-term girlfriend or a wife, then do be aware that there are risks with regard to the ladies that you'll meet - they aren't all good girls from the right side of the track!
Don’t underestimate that risk, there are plenty of gold-diggers out there just waiting for a decent man to come along who can be exploited for all that he is worth.
The good news is that you can protect yourself by understanding how Thai ladies think and feel about things. The advice in my Thai Dating Mega Book will really help you to avoid the gold-diggers and find an honest, lovely Thai lady, so do yourself a favour and read it.
The ladies on the dating sites are undoubtedly a lot more wholesome than the girls that you will meet in the tourist area bars. What's more, there's no bar-fine to pay, and no tip for the lady in the morning! Both parties are interested in the same thing... but you do still need to pick up the food & drink tab :)
There simply is no better way to build up knowledge and experience of Thai women than by chatting with them online. If you have read my advice about gold-diggers you will understand about ‘danger-signs’ i.e. which dubious hallmarks to look out for in a Thai lady with regard to her intentions toward you.
You can use the internet to try and figure out what kind of conversations you can get away with, what sort of things make Thai girls laugh, what subjects to avoid and so on, and you can set up a lot of promising encounters for when you arrive in Thailand.
You will certainly find plenty of ladies online that show none of the danger signs whatsoever, in this case you can happily set up some dates before you even get to Thailand. You will even have built up an understanding of each other that will make conversation that bit easier when you meet in person.
I stand by my thoughts on other pages though... as far as long-term relationships or marriage is concerned, you should be a little cautious about the ladies who you meet in Pattaya, whether or not you found them online, in a restaurant, a shop, a library or anyplace else.
Don't let yourself be discouraged by the unscrupulous ladies; YOU CAN have lots of fun with the online girls, and YOU CAN meet good girls if you know what to look for!
Of course, you might well decide that you prefer the casual no-strings attached variety of dating that Pattaya has to offer, and in that case I especially recommend finding girls online. You have absolutely nothing to fear from any of the gold-diggers if you are not going to be getting into anything long-term and, even better than that, most of the best looking girls can only be found online these days!
The reason for the ongoing migration of girls away from the bars and clubs and onto Thai dating sites is due to the fact that Thai girls are usually very concerned that, if they work in a bar, they’ll be spotted by someone from their home village. If that happened then word of her employment would certainly get back home, and a great deal of shame would be heaped upon her.
Of course, these days the risk of being photographed or caught on video is much higher than it was a few years ago and, with social sharing websites being so popular these days, images and videos spread like wildfire. Gossip travels in Thailand at a pace that would shame a knitting circle in the west!
The flip side is that, whilst technology has made the dangers of being found out so much more likely, it has also presented the girls with the option of plying their trade in a much more discreet manner via the Thai dating sites – and that’s why you can have so much fun with these sites these days.
One thing you must use online is an instant-messaging facility. Don't bother with the messaging services that resemble an email service. You need to be able to type something, send it, get a reply straight away and send a response etc. That's conversation - if you only send each other messages every day or two you won't do a thing to improve your conversation skills, so make sure that you use the instant messaging facilities that any decent Thai dating site comes with.
Thai Dating is a lot of fun and it can lead to either serious romances or casual fun, whichever you prefer. I hope that you found my advice here useful and that you find what you are looking for.
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